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Singularity (2)

Here comes the second part of the song Singularity. (First Part click here)

People hide.

People are vulnerable inside.

People don't want to be recognized.

People don't want to be identified.

Because of others prejudices,

Nobody dares to disclose one's singularity.

I know your insecurity,

But you have to show identity, 

If you trust somebody, you could find out, 

that your singularity makes you proud. 

Show me who you are without you cover.

Stop trying to be like anyone other.

People hide.

People are vulnerable inside.

People don't want to be recognized.

People don't want to be identified.

Because of others prejudices,

Nobody dares to disclose one's singularity.

You have to have your singularity.

You have to share your singularity.

You have to love your singularity.

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Singularity (1)

I think it's one or two years ago that my sister told me to write a song for her, because she needed it for a reason that I forgot. Here's the first part of the song.

Most people don't know who they are.
They lie to be someone who we love.
Are afraid we might find out who they are;
Afraid to be someone they didn't strove.

People hide.
People are vulnerable inside.
People don't want to be recognized.
People don't want to be identified.
Because of others prejudices,
Nobody dares to disclose one's singularity.

With their clothes and with their look, 
Trying to impress the big wide world. 
Their cars, their houses and where they are born, 
All this, they only do that someone likes. 

I don't want to see more of your outside appearance.
Don't see everybody as concurrence,
Show me who you are without you cover.
Stop trying to be like anyone other.

♥♥♥ Part 2 coming soon.

Social Life

People tend to brag with their social life in front of others. Only with someone they really trust they start to talk about how they really feel about friends and people they have to do with. So, we kinda of need our social life and our human connections. But what happens if we don't have if we loose these connections and this life? How does our life look when we don't talk to others? How do we feel, when nobody asks us how our day was? I think we need personal contact to feel alive. When we don't talk we can't share our thoughts. When we don't have someone who looks in our eyes, nobody looks in our soul and sees the real person who's in there. Imagine a life, where we don't have anyone. We wake up very morning, go into shower, eat breakfast and go to work. We work somewhere, where no humans are and we are always alone. How long would it take us to totally freak out? How long? When that happens we aren't alive anymore. We are just dead people who rest in a biologically living body. Let's never let it come so far. Let's keep our friendships alive. Let's create trust. Let's be together and not alone.

ツツツ

Cutest thing in the world.

For all of you who like puppies or dogs and all of you who don't like puppies and dogs:
Since I'm 11 years old I used to hate dogs. The reason is, when my cousin was young (and I mean really young) a dog bite her in her cheek. I don't remember how it exactly happened, but I guess it must have been horrible. Another cousin of mine was pushed so hard by another dog that he fell down and lie down in the grass. It must have been terrible for him, too. I'm not trying to generalize that, but I think that it's the behavior and the actions of a dog, which makes it unpleasant.
When I first met Hachi it was the same as always. He's the dog of a friend and even though it was outside of the house, he was barking the whole time and I had to be afraid that he's going to bite me in my leg. Of course the dog and me hated each other.
But today everything changed.
I was at my friends house and I don't wanna seem arrogant or conceited, but I think the dog fell in love with me. After a short time, he followed me where ever I went and I could pet him almost every where, where I wanted. It was amazing and I have to admit I fell in love with him too. Even my friend said, that the dog usually doesn't like her friends as much as he liked me.
Isn't it like in the perfect love stories, where two people hate each other first but then create the biggest love we have ever seen?
Of course I can't compare my relationship to a dog, to a couple of two humans, but I want to tell you something else with this example.
Sometimes in life the first try doesn't work. Sometimes we don't succeed by doing the first step. Sometimes we need to try again and need to do the first step again.
Don't give up, when it doesn't work the first time.

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The purse.

Shopping is a way for women immerse into another world and forget what is bothering them.
After a a trip with my school class I went shopping with my friends, because we already were in a big city. Most of you should know the store Primark which initially comes from Great Britain. But thanks to globalization we have stores in Germany too and I can tell you it's one of the best clothing stores I know. Besides the fact that the clothes are incredible cheap, the clothes and especially the accessorizes are adorable pretty. When I was in Primark at that day, I found this purse. It's black and tiny and cute and it was Love at the first sight so I chose to take it. My friends first reaction was:
"Not really? You're buying a purse? You already have so many!"
It was an immeasurable extent of confusion in my head.
Weren't they the ones who taught me that I can never have too many purses?
I bought it. I didn't care about my friends advise to let the purse in the shop. I didn't make my decision up to them. But it wasn't because I don't like their advise. It wasn't because I don't care what they say.
I actually did it for two reasons.
First of all because the purse was awesome and it really matches my character.
The other reason is, that I hate when gives me an advise when they told me the opposite a short time before.

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I can't believe it.

But we have a story. You're deleting it out of your head. You might think it's easy for me, but it's hard. To forget you is one of the hardest things, I've ever had to do. The time we spent together meant something to me. I know you don't believe me, but it's true. I know I lied to you, but I'm too afraid to say the truth. Because you always lied to me. All the time. Sometimes I can't believe it. I want that everything you said was true. I want that it meant the same to you as to me. But you just used me. You don't even know which feelings you released in my body. I never felt so strong.
You did your mistakes. I did mine. I'm never gonna know whose were worse. I'm never gonna know who did more. But it doesn't matter. We can forgive each other everything what we did.
It's Life that doesn't let us be together.
When we're trying to get what we want, we don't get it.
If we don't want something we get it.
But if we don't want it first after we got it and then change our mind, it usually is taken away from us.

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The key is yourself

Read this text until the end:

"You meet someone.

You two get close.

It's all great for a while.

Then someone stops trying.

Talk less. Awkward conversations.

The drifting.

No communication whatsoever.

Memories start to fade.

Then that person you know,

becomes that person you KNEW.

That's how it usually goes, right?

Sad, isn't it."

The internet is full of texts like this. People like to complain that they lost someone in their life and they are just hurt and hurt and hurt.

You know... when you lost someone in your life, then maybe because they died or they walked away to another continent or anything. But you should stop saying those things about people who are still in the same city, town, school or even class like you. 

I know you wanna hear that they hurt you and you have every reason to cry now. It's okay. You can be hurt.  You can be really sad about it and it's okay. But you should ask yourself if you did everything that's possible about it.

You know you are saying: "We aren't that close anymore."

But WHY?

Why are you not close anymore? Is it maybe because you didn't have time for this friend anymore. Is it maybe because when this person didn't text you first you stopped trying? Is it maybe because you didn't listen the person anymore?

I'm not saying it's you're fault. All I'm saying is that you might wanna think about why it happened and what you could have done about it.

Don't let it happen next time, because you are right. It is sad.

Call me boring, but I like talking more than party.

One of my friends has many family problems. It's not only one actually. There are so many teenagers who have family problems and everybody just says it's normal at this age.
Maybe it gets normal when we see it as a normal fact. But normal ain't good.
These boys and girls who have an argument with their parents everyday, who scream in their parents face and who's parents don't know how to talk to them anymore, they have a huge problem. It's not normal. It's not okay.
Our society came to a point where we rather denounce a problem than solve it. Instead of fixing it we usually start to ignore it and escape. We are looking for something else but our problem follows us very often.
What do we even get when we escape?
I suggest to tell each other what we think without hurting someone. I suggest we don't run away when we should face a problem. I suggest we try hard to find a solution.
Call me boring, but I like talking more than party.
Because partying gives me attention, but talking gives me trust.

♥♥♥

Be change.

I'm just recently thinking about this quote.
"Be the change you wanna see in the world."
I wrote this on my leg when I was bored. The next day in school my best friend asked me: "Which change do you wanna see?"
I said what I always say: "You can read it, but don't talk to me about it."
Why did I not want to answer?
The first reason was of course, because I wanted to piss her a little off by saying it, because she's my best friend and I love her. To almost everything what I write and she asks me about is this sentence the answer.
But the second reason is and I'm not proud to say it, that I don't really know what I want to see.
It's not easy for me to say what comes up to my mind first.
And even if I know what I want to see, even if I know what should be different, even then, I'm to afraid to say it out loud. I'm afraid, someone could expect me to do exactly that change.
I know the change which should be made, but I'm afraid to give up everything to make this change possible.
Am I even allowed to say such a quote, when I'm not even there to put it in practice?
I shouldn't be the one who says it. I should be the one who hears it.

ツツツ

An argument.

It was yesterday when I had a huge argument with one of my friends. I have to mention that we don't know each other for so long, but my friendship to him really means something to me, because we telling each other so much. It's weird about our friendship that even tho we just know each other for a short time, we argue really much. It's because of the different opinions we have. About every single topic. It's like we have nothing in common so we argue about everything. Except some movies... :)
But yesterday it was different. It wasn't about one of these normal little fights which we have every day. It was more. But it's kinda unsolvable because he is so obstinate. He won't change his mind ever about it. It made me so mad.
That's the story, but the worst are my feelings, because I felt like he doesn't care about me at all. It's terrible.
I choose to ignore him, but it's not easy to ignore someone when he's not trying to talk to you. I mean, it's kinda easy, but it's too easy. I wanted it to be so hard. But I guess that's what makes it so hard.
I'm thinking about it every hour.

Why do they lie?

There was a day. A long time ago. When you told your really first lie. 

I knew you were lying. It was funny.

There is a time. Now. Right now. And I'm sick of all your stupid lies.

I don't know when you're lying. I hate it.

Why do you expect honesty, when you gave so much shit?

You don't have the right to expect any true sentence. No one.

I'm wondering if you still feel the feeling when you lie. I feel guilty when I don't let anyone know about the truth. Maybe you stopped to feel guilty.

Maybe it became the reality, not the exception.

I don't know if you're are aware of the consequences. 

Lying is wrong for a reason. The reason is: You hurt someone if you don't tell the truth.

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We changed.

In those days back then, we thought differently. We saw the mistakes which people do. We always said, we would never become these people. We said it's wrong and we knew it.

We changed.

Now, it's fun. We laugh about them, who refuse to act like we do. We call it YOLO when we do mistakes, because we don't want to take responsibility for our fateful deeds.
We would judge ourselves if we weren't us.

We say it's meant to be, because we don't wanna change the path we choose.
What if we got the wrong direction? What if we are becoming worse, not better?
We forgot to try to do the right thing. We said, we are doing wrong anyway. We said everyone makes mistakes, so it's fine.
We started to brag with our mistakes. We are proud to do wrong.

Maybe not all of us. But me.

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I didn't wanna leave you. All of you.

I still miss you sometimes.

And by sometimes I don't mean that I forget you the other time.

I just mean that sometimes, I really wish you could be here, next to me.

And I wished you could tell me your opinion about everything.

I wished you could tell me what you think, so that I could tell you how I think. Probably we would start arguing about it, but I miss it.

I miss every second we spent together. 

Sometimes, when my life just happens, then I wish you could be with me and we could have the fun together. Because it would be more fun with you. It would be nicer and better. 

I guess I just need to figure out to live without the most amazing things, I ever had and instead I should be thankful that I got them once.

But sometimes I just wish you could just lie with me and just forget the world.

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I wish you were here!

"Didn't think about it, just went with it
You're always there, you're everywhere
But right now I wish you were here." - Avril Lavigne

When you are not around me, it's like a part of me is missing.

When you're not there, I'm not complete.

♥♥♥

The Truth.

The Truth is that I'm more hurt than all of you thought.
I know I acted as a strong person, but you don't know that I'm not.
I've tried to not show my tears. And whenever you saw them I said it's fine and I laughed about myself crying.
But actually the TRUTH is: I'm not laughing. I pulled up the corners of my mouth.
I said I'm so thankful for what I got, but actually that's just one side. It's what I'm trying to let you think of me.
Because I don't want you to think I'm weak. Because being weak is letting all of you know that I feel the pain.
I said I don't worry about it. But I do. Not exactly about what happened, but about what it does to the ones I love.
It's hard to be hurt, but it's even harder to not let anyone know about it.
It's hard to cry, but even worse to hide it.
But I can't tell anyone. Because when I tell someone, they feel with my for a day. They forget about it. And as soon as they forget about it, they think I forgot about it too. But I don't.
I live with it every day.
While you are telling me about your problems, I start worrying about you. I feel sad for you. Just because deep in myself I still think I'm strong enough to get along with it alone, but you need my help.
So I'm gonna make the smile on your face and tell you that it makes me happy, too.

Every time I think back to it, I want to scream. But my voice fails.

Problems

So I think we're doing a huge mistake in our society these days.
It's the way we think about problems. Well... I should rather say, the way we talk about them.
Fact is: We talk about our problems instead of solving them.
Because we are taught that we should never change for anyone. So we won't change ourselves. We'd never do that, because of course we think we are right.
On the other site: We hate everyone. Not literally hate, but the little hate we feel whenever someone does something, we don't like.
Instead of solving problems by changing anyone's behavior or by trying something new, we are just being the same old person who we always were. We tell our problems our friends. We gossip about someone who is not like we want them. And if anyone tells us about our mistakes we just say: I will never change myself for anyone.
What's wrong with us?

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Love Letter: The first one

Once someone, a boy, wrote a letter to a girl. She wrote a letter back:

Boy,
I don't know what to say. I read your letter. Now I read both of them and I can't even say which one made me more cry. They are both so cute. So cute, that it just made me cry even more. You know, you always say "you have to get over this", but I don't want to get over this alone. I know you said "Life is there for being happy", but I just wished I could be happy with you. My face probably looks like crap, because tears are rolling down on from my eyes. I miss you so much. And it will never be the same.
[...]
You can be proud of me. I didn't cry for at least 15 minutes. Good right? But my face still looks super bad, because it is red and my hair is messed up because i didn't crush it and my eyes hurt, but I have a smile on my face. You know why? Because I'm happy I know you. And I'm so happy about every single word you wrote to me in the letter.
I have to go now. So bye, have fun... and I still love you. Smile!
Girl♥

But she never send it.

I'm done.

I'm done. Done waiting for everyone to give the love back. 

They are just answering questions, not starting to talk. 

And I have to live with it.

Who's there when I need them?

♥

"I'm sorry that I didn't tell you I loved you, when I knew I did."

Don't do the same mistake.

At least I got my friends

Maybe... I don't need to have a partner right now.

Maybe my friends are enough.

I won't be alone with so many people.

I don't need a boyfriend.

I can be happy without it.

And you too.

Stop having the pressure of searching for the right one.

It's gonna be awesome with friends.

Sometimes. I wish. I want.

Sometimes it's me. Here. Alone.
Sometimes it's cold. In my heart. Now.
Sometimes it's messed up. In my mind.
Sometimes I'm sad. Even me.

I wish they would listen. And if they do, I wish they would care.
I wish they would help. And if they do, I wish they wouldn't do it to use me.

I wanna talk to someone. About my the tears at night.
I wanna walk with you. But I don't think I might.

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Stop and Start.

Sometimes we should stop thinking about everything and start acting!

Stop hurting someone

When you hurt me it was fine. But are you seriously doing all the same mistakes again to someone else?

So hey. Don't hurt anyone again. Fine. I will live with the pain. That you used me. It's fine. But don't repeat your mistakes. Just don't.
Don't you learn from your mistakes? Don't you?
Why did you not listen to me when I told you that it hurts? Why did you not stop hurting people?
Why do you continue?

And like every single time it turns out to be a great huge WHY?

And I just don't know the answer. I can just please you to stop. It hurts and maybe one day someone will hurt you back.

♥♥♥

Friends? hm...

You want to be friends? Great.
You don't want to be friends? Even better.

But don't think you can show up in my life ever again...

Revenge is maybe wrong but at least makes sense to me. Being mean for no reason is just totally stupid!

Babies? Do you even know what I'm talking about? It's about a friend.
I was always there for my friend. But the friend just to go different ways. Should I be mad at my friend or just sad?
A person who doesn't want to be with me anymore is not worth it, right? But it still hurts... And it hurts to see the person and tell myself: "Don't talk!"
I don't want that this friend thinks I'm even sad about it. I won't show my emotions. I will be cold like Ice.
Let's see who lost a friend in here...

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The blame

I want to tell you the truth. The whole long lasting truth? No. Just a secret from my diary. A secret about what I'm thinking about. Something you maybe can identify with. Just maybe. Maybe it's the truth. Maybe it's a lie. But the uncertainty keeps it so mysterious...

Diary. My mistake.
I was asking myself why am I still awake? Why is it so hard to sleep? But actually i knew exactly why I couldn't sleep. It was all my fault. It was something i did on my own that didn't let me sleep. I hated myself. I hated myself when I did it and I still did it because i didn't want to stop it in that moment. I wanted to wring. For purpose. Something that felt so wrong. Guilt.i knew, I could get forgiveness for it. It was fine. But I worried much more about myself. Why did i do something, something I would judge everyone else for.

You always look at me like I'm so perfect. You think I'm doing no mistakes? You think I don't regret anything. Some of you think I just do what I want. You think I just follow my dreams and get my goals. You say I always get what i want. 

But no. No. I do mistakes too. Everyone, if one knows or not, has a weakness. All of us have at least one. And mine is just something special. I feel bad about when I always judge everyone else. I decided if it was right or wrong what you did. I always remember your mistakes. Every mistake. But now it's me. You know, it's hard to say you did wrong. It's hard to blame yourself for something. It's my fault - hard sentence.
I  regret. I did wrong. But I'm afraid of something else. Something stays. The fear of my weakness. What if it comes back and I will do the same mistake again? What keeps me from doing the same again?

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Key

The key to happiness is being thankful for the slightest reason.

What else could i say?
The sentence should say enough, right?

But, oh well, this is me and I couldn't just leave the sentence alone after I created it without saying anything about it. 

The key to happiness. What does that even mean? 
Okay, since you're asking... it's a simple way to be happy. All in all. Your whole heart, head, mind and body. 
How do you mean "being thankful for the slightest reason"?
Uhm, you know the word thankful, right? So being thankful just means not taking everything as if it were the most natural thing in the world. The slightest reason is actually just my simply way to tell you to be thankful for everything. Thanks for fresh air. Thanks for the fact that my feet don't hurt. Thanks that I can see the beauty of the world. 
So what? You are just thankful for everything and it makes you happy?
Yes. It does. 
Why?
Simply because let's you be depressed when you complain about your life. It makes you and others depressed. If you try it the other way around like thinking about all the good you got, you will realize life is not that bad as it seems to you first. 
Guess what? Here is what you need to do: Everyday find ONE story to be thankful for! At least one. I promise you will find more than one if you try serious. 
You got my promise. If not, i guess I'm a fool and you shouldn't visit my blog anymore. (I'm kidding... :P )

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Be this person

Be the kind of person who gets what you want without hurting anyone.

  Baby,...?
Please listen. It's important. Really. Okay? So...
How often did i tell you to be who you want to be, to do what you want, to go for it and to follow your dreams?

Many times.

And how often did I tell you to love others and to help your friends?

Sometimes.

Well, Of course it's important for you that you do what you want. That you are yourself. Sometimes you should just do exactly what you need to be happy. Yeap. Because being happy is great. But it's even better if you are not happy alone. 

When I said "be the kind of person who gets what you want", i meant to listen to your heart. To do crazy stuff, something that's eventually just amazing for you. 

But when I said "without hurting anyone", i meant WITHOUT. The most important word in the whole sentence is without, because if you hurt someone with your deeds its worse than not following your dreams. 

It's because others come first and your dreams come after. That's how it is and it might sound boring to you, because that sounds like boring. 

But Look. If others are happy with you, it's even greater to be happy alone. Fine?

♥♥♥

Stop talking bad

Boy or Girl? I wanna tell you this one important sentence:

 "Please, stop talking bad about the only person, who is still on your side!"

Someone is your friend. Someone loves you. Someone cares for you.
   Someone can be everyone.
This person who actually likes you. You. The way you are and everything. This is the person you should be nice to, too.
Because this is the person who deserves it the most.

I know this girl who had a friend. And she started to hate her own friend because a boy liked the friend and not the girl. She was mad, pissed and started to hate her actual best friend. I just hope this won't ever happen to you. I want you to accept that some people will like your friend and not you. Sometimes your friend will be popular and not you. Sometimes your friend will be prettier than you. But this is life.
And I hope, when it comes to the moment and you face the person is maybe better in something, then I hope you don't hate your friend who loves you.
Because sometimes this friend is the only honest, true person you still have and you shouldn't give this person up for anybody or anything.

Love the person who is on your side.

♥♥♥

I wished I would be a guy

My Life would be way much easier if I would just be a guy. I mean in general, you have no problems.

1. You don't have to shave your legs
2. You don't have to look cute all the time. 
3. If you don't like someone you can just punch the person.
4. You don't have to wear make-up.
5. You don't have to wear Jewels.
6. You can pee while you are standing.
7. You can open your legs and nobody will think you're a whore.
8. You can walk around without shirt.
9. You can burp in public.
10. You can do the first move.
11. You can be physically strong without seeming weird.
12. You don't need to wear a bra.

There's just one reason I want to stay a girl. Girls are prettier. :**

♥♥♥

"Awkward moment..."

Funny thing is: People posting all the "Awkward moment..." posts all over Facebook.
Let me say on little thing about it.

People are creating this Quotes easily with a usual situation from life.
They take a moment which is pretty normal for everybody. They put "That awkward moment, when..." in front of the situation. They are done posting it.

But actually it just makes you think that somebody out there in this world has the exact same thinking like you do. Wow. And you are kind of manipulated it you believe them.

I'm gonna try to show you with an example.

The page "Funnystuff" posts: "This awkward moment when you poop."
Now here are the User's comments:

Princess6407: What that happens to you too??? *___*

Ben.the.Player: True Story, Bro!

Flowergirly22: Hey, I know that moment so well. Wow.. :$

Johnthebest: These post always fit perfectly to my life. I was just pooping.

Well, I guess everybody cares so much about Johnthebest’s poop.

And we all wanted to know how the Story with Flowergirly22 continues, because it seems like she really needs to talk about her life story. 

How you see. It’s just a simple life situation. Written down. With awkward moment.

-          Like everything would be awkward, just because it happens to everybody

-          That awkward moment when you fall asleep and you start dreaming

-          Things happen

-          And we don’t need every freaking detail of them in a picture on Facebook

-          Nope we don’t.

-          So next time you read one of these. Think

o   Does it really just randomly fit to my life?

o   Or is there a background?

o   Because it’s happening to everyone.

That awkward moment when you look out of the window and see a tree…

That awkward moment when you have a friend

That awkward moment when you breath…. Wooow….

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I hate Hate

Hate
Someone said once: If you have haters you're doing alright. 
Well, because someone else hates this person for doing something. It might be bad or good. It doesn't really matter, because it made someone else jealous or mad or anything. It just created hate. And this person probably told a friend about the hate he or she brings up to the other one. Now the friend told someone else about it and they gossip about it until the first person finds out that there is ONE person (maybe they never talked) who hates him or her.
Now, we have the permission to hate back, right?
But just why? Why? Why?
Isn't there a way we can live together without talking bad behind a person's back? Isn't it possible to accept that not everybody is doing exactly what we want and might be different than we are? Isn't it practicable to care just about our own business?
Love
I wish people stop the hate. I hope people start to love for no reason. I want girls to say nice words about their friends when they're not in the room and I want guys to not call each other fat.
We shouldn't give HATE the chance to destroy our friendships. To destroy connections.
Perhaps we should not be happy for the misfortune other's. Probably we should share their suffering with them.
Perhaps we should not hate for the success other's. Probably we should be happy for them and celebrate with them.
Why don't we just stop thinking about us first and start thinking about them first?

♥♥♥

Do what you want

Imagine a situation. You are a girl. You hang out with a boy a lot. Suddenly he stops talking to you. But you would feel stupid if you start talking to him. It doesn't matter if you like him more than friends or not. This is just what i tell you to do, K?
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So first of all. You are NOT stupid. I don't know what's wrong with him, but he actually is the stupid one if he is not talking to you. And I don't mean, it's stupid of him to not talk to you. I mean he is stupid because of all the fun he is missing while not talking to you. But that's his problem. But still, I think you should go there and talk to him. Ask what's going on. Go for what you want, baby! If you want something, then just go and take it.
I know it's fine for you to just be friends, right? Well, maybe... (and this is just a possibility)... maybe he thinks you like him more than friends. I can imagine the feeling he would have. Sometimes I'm afraid that person could like me more than i do. Then i stop talking to the person, that he doesn't get the wrong impression. Really. And if you never talk to him, you can never find out. Just let him know that you don't like him more than friends. (In case you like him more than friends still do so, even if it's not true.) But if you don't want that, then don't do it. Just saying. Here is a little trick that could help. Tell the boy he is your best friend, like your brother or you just tell him about another guy you like. Then he won't think you like him. He won't think it's more than friendship. Because you wouldn't date your brother, right? (At least i wouldn't...)
What I'm telling you: You don't want to regret anything for being too shy to talk to someone. I regret many situations from my past when i was too shy. I really do. But it's okay. If you just are like that now. .... So just do what you want, do whatever you think is right. Don't hurt anybody. Yeah, don't do that, it's not a good thing. and ... uhm... be happy!

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April. Again.

Dear Secrets&Quotes-Reader,

I'm back. A couple things happened in the last month, that's why I wasn't posting. I'm sincerely Sorry. :/

But NOW I'm gonna post again, and divulge some of the Secrets from the past...
Because so many secrets are in our life.

Love ya

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Need to breath

"I don't wanna hurt you but I need to breath" - Too Close

It's better to breath than hurting yourself. Even if you think you would hurt someone, then watch out. Because if you wait to long you could possibly hurt both of you.

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The Cliff

Falling in Love is like going on a really high Cliff.
You can enjoy the amazing view which you see from the top, but you also have to fear that you can fall down.
The more you Love the higher you come. And when you're at the highest point it hurts the most when you fall down...

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My Heart's past

"My heart didn't break because of something he did. It broke because of something I did. In the exact same moment when I realized I left him forever my heart split apart. Sometimes I hope it can heal... Sometimes I realize it's hopeless."

My past.
My heart's past.

I had this feeling before. Do never let it come so far. Because the effect that comes after a broken heart is bad. And it's even worse, if your heart was not broken by someone, but by yourself. Because if that happens you can't even be mad at someone.

Sometimes I don't wanna hurt them

Sometimes, You have to notice that life is not going the way you actually wish it right now and then you feel helpless. 

When someone extremely hurt you, then it feels like someone is pulling out your heart. Sometimes I feel like crying then.

But this time I will be strong and I won't give up. I will accept all the challenges life gives me, like i learned it. Human I love did hurt me. But I won't play a game with those who did play a games with me. Because if I would do that, I would do the same mistake as them and they would have to experience the same pain.

I will try be strong. Be myself and don't let anybody bear me down. And you should do that too.

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Questions...

Hi Babies,
I have some News for you. That you don't get confused, I will start at the beginning:
Some Facts you need to know to understand my story: It's about me and some other people. (I hope that helps now...)
So I'm doing a work experience. My school made me do it. So I have really much fun there. And One day, I went to this place... Many 'Very Important Persons' are there. I was really happy I could be there, too. They showed me everything and I had the chance to see how it's working there. Pretty cool though. 
Then I had a conversation with a guy about something really special. It's very important, I guess. He talked about it like 30 minutes and I'm not lying when I say i actually listened to half of it.  I would have listened to everything, but I really needed to pee. And I bet you know how that feels, when you need to pee so bad, but you just can't go, 'cause you have to listen to someone's important life. It's so hard. But I was smart. At least I thought I am. I always said: "Yes" and "I totally understand what you are talking about and it's so freaking interesting." But accidentally I didn't remember a word he was talking about. And in the end, when he asked me if I have any questions, I just didn't know what to ask. I was thinking really hard there, 'cause it's so embarrassing when you don't have a question. Thinking and sitting what I could ask now. 'Whatever you ask, don't make it stupid!', I told myself. Don't ask anything stupid...!!!

Me: "I actually do have a question. Uhm... Is there a toilette anywhere?"

I realized that it was probably the most stupid question I could have asked, when the guy started to laugh hysterically. he laughed so much that I was afraid he is going to die because of eating his own tongue. Well. at least that didn't happen. I'm so lucky. And he actually showed me the toilette then. I was so happy.

The message for today is: Don't be shy to ask stupid questions. Because even if it's freaking embarrassing for you. In most cases you get what you want in the end. 
An important sentence you should know: Don't blame me for people calling you stupid after all.

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The NEW Era

Hello my lovely Audience,

I'm inaugurating a new Era. Are you excited yet? I promise you will.
If not... maybe you just don't get my humor. Oh dang... now I already let it out: My New Era is gonna be funny. At least for me. Just kidding.
I'm serious. I will change. Almost everything will be something from my life for your life to give you a small taste of the ridiculousness of Life.

Whatever is happening, I bet there can be something funny in every moment. Except funerals. They are sad. And natural catastrophe in a Third World country. That's horrible.

And for some of you, there will still be some Quotes in between.
Secrets will be there too. But you might not get, that I'm talking about them, 'cause they will be hidden in a joke. Isn't that exciting?

Visit my Blog tomorrow and Check out what the New Era really means.

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Feedback

If you are really New on my Blog, you might wanna check it out first. Scroll down, look at the side bar or read some Posts.

Read my Favorite Quotes!
Find out something about the author (Me)!
Check all my Posts from January 2013.
Or guess what I say about Myself and why I write this Blog.

But if you already know most of the stuff that is going on and you can think of something to improve or you just want to say how you like Secrets&Quotes, then you have the chance to give your own personal Feedback. I promise the Blog will just be like you want it!

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Effects

Let's talk about a topic that is really new for all of us... Just kidding it's Love again. But... nope: I'm not talking about Love anymore. I don't want you to get the feeling it's the only thing i'm talking about. 'Cuz it's not. I'm also thinking about other stuff... like the effects of Love.
Did you ever hear the Quote:

Love: Friendship, what are you there for?
Friendship: I wipe up the tears which are your fault.

...So it tells you one thing: Love always hurts. But let's see Is it really Love that's hurting. Maybe it's something else.
My friend told me "Love is no what's hurting you. Being alone is hurting even worse."
Cheating, no trust, Hate, Arrogance and Selfishness are effects which hurt you. We always connect them with Love. We should be consciously about that Love is on the good side.
You wanna know something more about Love? Check it out!

• The Comparision of Painting and Love
• What's Love?
• That wonderful thing can happen to you!
• That should never happen!

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Cheating (3)

First check out Cheating Part 1 and Cheating Part 2 before you read this last part!

But why is cheating so wrong? Many guys and girl these days don’t even know why there is  problem with doing it. ‘Without cheating there is just less fun!’ ...,they say. It is wrong because: It hurts really much. It hurts the heart of somebody. It makes people cry. It destroys relationships. It takes the trust away and offers fear. It makes people lie. It takes the hope. It takes the purity of Love. It ruins Believers. It supports Liars. It makes people think bad of others. It takes friendships away. Is there not anything good about it?
You might think, all of that above is a little too much. But no! It happens. People are hurt. And people stop to believe they will meet someone who actually cares about them one day. It destroys friendships when the Cheater, the Cheated on person and the Cheated with person are friends.
All in all, it’s not a good thing at all. It’s just bad. Even if you think it’s fun for a second. it always breaks at least one person’s heart.

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Cheating (2)

Did you read Cheating Part 1? Here is the second Part.

Here is another problem: The person who cheats with. Some people say this person has no mistake by doing it because he or she is probably single and did nothing wrong in that case. But if it’s not wrong is it right then? I have just one question: If you know somebody has a girl or boyfriend, is that right to kiss a taken person? Think about it. I hope your answer is no. Because if not, then I hope you will never meet a take person. Let me explain you why you shouldn’t be the one who cheats with:
It’s simple. So Let’s say you are a Guy or a Girl. (What else could you be...) And you have a Girl- or a Boyfriend. (Sorry, this little story is only for heteros...) So you really love your partner, right? At least in this case you do. Aww... so much Love. So yeah, and your partner is going somewhere without you. You trust your partner. Really you do. But everybody can do a mistake right? Everybody could just accidentally do something wrong. And then there is the opportunity for your partner to cheat. And you are just hoping that nobody does it, but there will be people who try to kiss your girl- or boyfriend. Are you not hoping that nobody would cheat with? That’s what I’m telling you. If you don’t want that anybody takes your partner, then don’t take anybody else's partner.
Both are doing wrong. The Cheater because of cheating. And the person who cheats with because that person took somebody else’s partner.

Continue Reading Part 3

Cheating (1)

Right or wrong? 
Well, I just guess if I would make a survey about it 99% would say it’s wrong. It’s a our human moral that people just think if you are in a relationship you should not be kissing or do other stuff with somebody else. Then why are still so many people cheating on each other?
First problem is always the person who cheats. I mean, if somebody cheated on somebody, then do they even love the person? I guess some people love their boy or girl friend and they still cheat. Let’s think about it: You love someone. You want to be with that person. You care about that person and you would do anything. Alright, so far. If you cheat on that person, why does that happen? Is the Cheater not even strong enough to stay with one person and to only kiss one person? Is one person not enough? I think it is. Some people have nobody and then nobody should take two then.
What I’m saying is. The Cheater is doing wrong. It’s a huge mistake and it might be forgiven by really good human ...but not by everybody.

Continue Reading Part 2

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At least live your dream

When i was a little child I always wanted to be a painter when I'm an adult. After that I wanted to be a singer. I changed my decision to be a Designer. Between all that jobs I always dreamed of being an popular author.
Now, I know that I'm not going to be any of these. Just because I'm not good enough in every single hobby.
Did anybody of you have that kind of dreams, too?
Something you know you can never be, but you just hope it will happen?
Many people always say the quote

"Live your dream" 

but, what does it actually mean for the real life.
Should somebody who can't swim try to go to the Olympics?
Should somebody colorblind become a painter?
Should somebody super small become a basketball player?

Well, if they want to, why not?

Somebody can learn how to swim and work out everyday and try.
Somebody can draw with a pencil and create wonderful pictures.
Somebody could train hard and still make it to be a small Basketball player.

So, don't give up when you are not yet the best after the first try. And don't give up your dream.
It's gonna make you happy, to do something you always wanted to do. Just do it. (And no, I'm not making a commercial for Nike...)
But don't give up and at least do one thing. Live your dream.

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Never ever let anyone...

Hey Guys.
There's something important I need to tell you. It's something what probably many of you have ever struggled with and her is a little advice from me.
It's your Love Life. I know some of you will think: "Hey, which Love Life are you talking about? My last date is more than a year ago."
Well, this advice is not only for those who are dating someone right now. It's something in general.

Never ever let anyone influence your love life!

And I really mean never. Because here's the thing. ... No wait. Let me ask you a couple of questions first.

Who is mainly influenced by your love life?
Who is the person who does the most in your relationship?
Who is getting heart broken if he/she breaks up?
Who are the people enjoying the relationship the most?
Who is putting trust in another person?

If you answer most of these questions with my partner or me, you are on the right track.

Let's go on. So we figured out that you or your partner are the 2 persons who have to do the most with the whole Love thing between you guys. In other words. It's only you and your partners business.So don't let anybody else influence your Love life. You never know the reasons they are telling you to do what they think you should.
Imagine you have a friend who was just cheated on. The person would probably tell you 'Love is shit'.
Another one who just got a date would maybe tell you just try, try, try. You can't loose anything.

I'm not telling you, you can't get advise from anybody. Cuz what the heck am I doing then now...
I wanted to say. be careful who you listen to, because it's your Love Life and you are the one who is going to get hurt or will have the most beautiful time. You never know.
Ask your friends and family for help. But decide on YOUR OWN!

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I'm wondering about guys (Part 2)

In "I'm wondering about guys (Part 1)" I talked about how the steps go when a guy meets a girl until he walks away.
The point why guys walk away after they got you is pretty easy. They get bored. And do you know why?
Because they don't have to chase you anymore. They don't have to do anything anymore and they don't need to fight anymore. So why working on something what you can have anyway?

The thing is. And that is pretty easy. There are 3 types of girls. Only in that case. All in all there are more types. But they come:

1. The stupid Girl. She meets a boy. She waits until he tries to get her. She rejects him once. He keeps trying. She falls in love. She loves him. He gets bored. He walks away. She cries 2 months. She thinks it was her fault. She feels guilty because he broke her heart.

2. The bitch. She plays with guys. For a reason. She doesn't want them to get her, because she already knows they walk away after she let's them catch her. She never let's anyone come close to her heart. That's why she has so many boys, because she keeps the boys chasing her.

3. The Smart Girl. She wants to fall in love. With a boy who she loves. But she knows boys. She doesn't want to let them get her at the first time. So she does the things that the boy chases her. But in the moment when the boy does super cute things to her, she accidentally falls in love with him. She didn't expect that, but it just happened to her. And so the circle goes on. The boy gets bored. But she does the thing. She tells him, it can't be like that. She hates when he gets bored, so she walks away from him. He can't stand when a girl walks away from him. He chases her again. But she knows he is an asshole. She doesn't want to let him get her again. But she does, because he is cute and she loves him. He gets bored again. He does stupid things to her. She walks away. She thinks it's forever. But we all know what is going to happen again...

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I'm wondering about guys (Part 1)

Something is really confusing me about Boys.
It is the fact, that they are always super cute, before they get you, and then, they suddenly don't even care about you anymore.

So I found out why it is that they are behaving this weird.
It's actually pretty easy.

Boy meets girl.
Boy talks to girl.
Girl is not interested.
Her rejecting creates his interest.
Boy chases her.
Boy likes her.
Boy does super cute things.
Girl falls in love.
Girl gives him a chance.
Boy gets bored.
Boy walks away.

Girl is hurt.

Why and how is that happening? Find it out here on January 23

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I would give...

"I would give anything to you."
Is it a promise? Is it Secret? Is it a threat? Or is it the most beautiful thing what a man can say to a woman?
Well i choose the last option.
If you love someone, then it's the greatest thing if the person chooses you to be the one person in their life. It's the most amazing feeling what you can have.

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To be loved

" I'm sure now. So sure. Sure that he loves me too. I believe him and i trust him. It makes me so happy and it gives my a balance in my inside. It's a beautiful feeling, to know, that there is someone, who loves you too. Even if it will not be like this anymore one day, then i will still be thankful and glad that i had once a person in my life who loved me and who i love too.
I love this wonderful feeling. "

This feeling what I describe above is something what it's really worth it. Sometimes we need to let us fall in something, we don't know if we will get hurt, but it's so wonderful to just let you fall...


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Leaving the worst thing or something good?

"But I have to leave and you have to release 'cause the end of something good can be the beginning of something better There's something new I know it's cruelI don't want to leave you behind But sometimes we have to go we have to go our own ways" 

The good thing about saying 'Good-Bye's is that you can look forward to see those people again. But  what should you do if you are not able to see them again? 

It is really hard, but how i said it can be the beginning of something better. At least something new.

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Intentions for the New Year

For 2013

I decided to make a list of things what I will change in the New Year:

1. I will not be selfish anymore. It's really important to me that I finally start (probably too late, but better than never) to care more about others than about myself.
2. I will concentrate on the school more. I know everybody says that every year over and over again, but I actually really have the plan to study. If you know me, You know studying is a hard thing for me. 
3. I will be nicer. It includes especially my family and my friends. They deserve a nicer me, for always being there for me.
4. I will finish a Book. I started that over and over again, but my New Goal is that i actually finish a Book now, that I finally have a whole Script then.
5. I will improve presents that I give. Less money, but more work, time and personal feelings.
6. I will read the book what my friend gave to me. I don't know why, but I love to write, but didn't even read one whole book in the last Year.
7. I will write more posts on my Blog and you are in charge to control that. I hope I will do a good job.
8. I will share more Love with everybody I meet. 
9. I will buy a New Camera and take tons of pictures of myself. Haha. Just kidding. Of others and Landscapes of course.
10. I will try so hard to abide all my NEW INTENTIONS FOR 2013!

What are your Intentions? Happy New Year to everyone! 

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